Affair Recovery

If you are reeling from the news of your partner’s affair you are likely to be left with…

  • Feeling utterly betrayed: “I don’t know who my partner is. I don’t trust my self anymore. My whole marriage feels like a lie.”
  • Feeling out of control: “One minute I am enraged. The next I think I’m going to be alright. The next minute I can’t stop crying. I am overwhelmed.”
  • Obsessive thoughts churning in your head over and over: “I feel like I am going crazy. No matter what I do I can’t stop thinking about the affair.”
  • Feeling alone: “I feel like nobody understands the pain I am going through. I feel humiliated and can’t bring myself to tell anyone.”

If your partner has had an affair, you may be feeling like you’ve just been punched in the gut. You’re in shock because you’ve never imagined such a betrayal could happen to you. Whether it was a sexual affair or an emotional affair, you may be wondering if you can ever repair the broken trust.

If this sounds like you, read on and see how…. Affair Recovery is Possible!

Through affair recovery counseling we can work together to get through all the pain you are living.

Openly talking about the affair is one of the most important factors in healing the relationship and/or yourself. Because of the intense anger and pain, many couples are simply unable to talk about the affair productively without a counselor who specializes in this area.

You don’t have to work through infidelity alone

If you work together as a couple, counseling with someone who specializes in affair recovery can help you:

  • Feel in control of the overwhelming painful feelings that tear you apart.
  • Have a place where you can talk with your partner constructively about the affair so you can make some important decisions about the next step of your relationship.
  • Decide whether to stay in your relationship or separate.
  • Overcome the repetitive thoughts that won’t stop and start to live again: regain your sense of calm and resume normal daily activities.
  • Look at what steps you need to take to rebuild trust should you decide to stay together.
  • Examine and resolve the root of the problems that led to the affair in the first place.
  • Rebuild your self-esteem as an individual and rebuild your confidence in yourself and in your relationship.
  • Renew your commitment to your relationship and each other if that is the path you choose.

I have worked with many couples who have dealt with infidelity and have rebuilt their relationships. We can work together to help you get through the pain you are living. You might even find your relationship grows stronger as a result of working through the affair, as other couples have..

Affair Recovery counseling can be done with your partner or on your own.

Even if you are continuing alone because your partner won’t join you or you’ve decided to leave your relationship or marriage, you deserve support and guidance as you put yourself back together again. You may benefit from someone with expertise in dealing with infidelity.

After an affair, individual counseling can help you heal your pain. It can still help you to:

  • Process and heal overwhelming feelings that have been tearing you apart.
  • Overcome those endlessly repetitive thoughts that consume your energy and may make you feel “crazy.”
  • Feel supported when you feel like you are drowning so you can resume your daily activities.
  • Examine your relationship and what you want/need it to be.
  • Rebuild your self-esteem and feel good about yourself again.
  • Learn how to communicate with your partner about the affair so you can decide how to move forward in your relationship and your life.

If you have decided to leave your marriage, counseling can also help you:

  • Explore and change possible destructive relationship patterns in your life.
  • Identify what you want from a future relationship.
  • Rebuild your self-esteem.
  • Learn to trust yourself and your judgement again.
  • Discover what may have been the root of the problem that lead to the affair so you can have a successful relationship in the future.